How to Write Wedding Vows That Truly Speak From the Heart (With Step-by-Step Guides & Examples)

Writing your wedding vows can feel a little intimidating—how do you sum up your love, your journey, your promises, and your future in just a few minutes? But don't worry—we've got you. Whether you're the poetic type or someone who prefers to keep things simple and sincere, this guide will walk you through writing wedding vows that feel true to you and your love story.

Let’s break it down with two easy-to-follow templates, plus examples to spark inspiration.

Before You Start: A Few Quick Tips

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• Make time: Set aside a quiet moment (or two) to reflect before writing.

  
  

• Write from the heart: This isn’t about impressing anyone—it’s about connection.

  
  

• Be yourself: If you're funny, be funny. If you're sentimental, lean into it.

  
  

• Keep it under 2-3 minutes: Short, sweet, and sincere is all you need (just a general guide).

  
  

• Speak your language—literally: Don’t be afraid to say your vows in your native language or a language that’s meaningful to you both. Love is universal, and this can be such a beautiful, personal touch.

Option 1: The Story + Promise Approach

This format is great for couples who want to reflect on their journey together and share how they’ll show up in their marriage.

Step-by-Step Structure

1. Start with a reflection on how far you’ve both come together.

2. Pick three things about your relationship, or your partner, that have helped you grow or made your journey special.

3. Make a promise about how you intend to be a loving, supportive partner.

4. Share your hopes and dreams for your future together.

5. Finish with “I love you.”

   
   

Example:

From that first coffee date that turned into four hours of laughter, to moving across the country and building a home together—we’ve already lived a lifetime in just a few years. I love the way you make the ordinary feel magical. I love your endless patience, and how you always know when I need a hug before I say a word. I love that we face challenges side by side, never against each other. I promise to keep growing with you, to be your partner in adventure and calm, in celebration and struggle. I can’t wait to see the family we build, the memories we create, and the quiet moments we’ll share when it’s just us. I love you.

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Option 2: The Straight-From-the-Heart Approach

This one’s perfect if you want something more direct, emotional, and to-the-point. It starts strong and stays personal.

Step-by-Step Structure

1. Start with “I love you.” Sometimes the simplest start is the most powerful.

2. Share three things you love about your partner.

3. Talk about why you’re a great team—what makes your relationship work.

4. Make a meaningful promise about your future together.

5. Share what you’re most excited about for your married life.

Example:

I love you.I love how you light up when you talk about the people you care about. I love how you dance in the kitchen when you're making breakfast. I love that you challenge me to be a better version of myself every day. We’re a great team because we listen, we laugh, and we lift each other up when it matters most. I promise to never stop choosing you, every day, even when it’s hard. I can’t wait for lazy Sunday mornings, traveling the world together, and building a life full of love, joy, and maybe a dog or two.

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A Few Final Reminders

• Practice reading aloud: It helps with nerves and flow.

  
  

• Write it down: Even if you memorise it, have a copy just in case.

  
  

• Speak from love: This moment is just for you and your partner. Let it be honest, real, and yours.

  
  

Whether you're writing something poetic, funny, romantic, or deeply emotional—your vows are your love, in your words. There’s no “right” way to do it, only your way.